20 Things I’ve Learned in 20 Years

In this week leading up to my 20th birthday, I have spent a considerable amount of time reflecting on the first two decades of my life. 10 years ago, I was thrilled to be entering the “double digits.” Now, I’m about to enter my decade of being a “twenty something” and I have some more mixed feelings. 20 years on this earth are not insignificant. I’d like to think I’ve learned a lot in that time. Here are 20 things I’ve learned in my two decades of life.


  1. My parents are my best allies and my biggest fans.
  2. School is important, but it’s not everything.
  3. Mental health requires continuous upkeep.
  4. Kids are mean, but so are adults.
  5. High school doesn’t end at graduation for everyone.
  6. Therapy can make the world manageable.
  7. Spin class is life-changing. Exercise makes me feel good.
  8. I don’t have to like cake (or any other food).
  9. Sometimes it’s better to end friendships than to patch them together.
  10. Some friends from home will always be there for you.
  11. Musical theater will forever be a part of me.
  12. Gradual minimalism makes you feel lighter
  13. Climate change is real and reducing my carbon footprint is important.
  14. It’s just money, I can make more.
  15. I don’t have to take a shower every day if I don’t want to.
  16. College isn’t an endless party. It’s sometimes lonely, too.
  17. Avoiding conflict isn’t as useful as developing resilience.
  18. Dieting won’t make me a better person.
  19. Family is an invaluable resource.
  20. I’m creating myself, not finding myself.

So, I’m entering this new decade carrying all of these things that I’ve gained so far. This is a thank you to the people who helped me get here and an acknowledgment of all the work I’ve done to become who I am today. Cheers to 20 years!



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